The universe nature book
lessons on life
- FIERCELY GUARD YOUR TIME.
- Time is one of the only things in life that you can never get back. It's precious AF. Don't allow anything on your calendar and to take up your time that isn't a "Hell Yes."
- If you don't make decisions for your own time, others will make it for you. Don't let them.
- PAY ATTENTION TO WHO SUPPORTS VS. ABANDONS YOU WHEN THE CHIPS ARE DOWN.
It's easy to support people when everything is going well. The real friends will support you when the shit hits the fan.
There’s oh-so-much rejection in the performing arts. We see “no” all the time.
Who will stick by you when you get a lot o’ nos in a row? Notice, cherish, support, and celebrate the hell out of them. Send everyone else to the outer circles of friendship.
- DROP PEOPLE WHO MAKE YOU FEEL WORSE AFTER INTERACTIONS WITH THEM.
Doesn't matter how long you've known them. Doesn't matter if in the past they didn't make you feel bad. We all change over time and are not always together.
If, on a regular basis, someone makes you feel worse after talking to or hanging out with them then they're no longer someone that needs to be in your life on a regular (or even if/when possible) basis.
Something that started happening after I entered my 40s is that if I didn't dump them, they dumped themselves.
(Note: this doesn’t mean you should wait until they go away but rather that the break may inevitably happen anyway. The real surprise is when you don't miss those who you thought were your closest.)
If you can’t completely break free from them because of family, work, or other significant obligations, at least take measures to mitigate their effects on your energy.
If they have a different point of view than you, try to shift your own perspective to one of curiosity rather than seeing them as antagonistic - at least for the time that you’re together. Plan something fun or space to do nothing at all after interacting with them.
Do whatever you need to do to not feel worse after you’ve interacted with them.
- TRUST IN YOUR INTUITION.
If you have a strong intuition, don't lose it. If you don't, develop it. Gut instincts are the best navigators for what to do and where to go in our life.
If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. If it does, go for it. Even when conventional wisdom says otherwise.
Glory be to God that each and everyone has within him/herself gift of discernment.
- LEARN HOW TO HANDLE THE BAD THINGS GRACEFULLY.
Bad things will happen in life. It will suck. It may even unbelievably, horribly, full-body-brain-and-emotion-numbing suck. Learn how to handle it with grace. This will help you get past the bad things without being a full bundle of emotionally raw nerves.
Note: this is not to say that you must accept all bad things or go into full denial that the bad is happening, as that doesn't help either. Instead, learn how to take a step back, take a breath, and look at a situation with logic and reason vs. only raw negative emotion.
Although you should absolutely take that raw emotion and channel it into the proper places of performance. It can help you there, but not necessarily in the day-to-day.
- FAIL FAST.
Too many of us are afraid of failure. Don't be afraid of it. Failure is fabulous because it tells you want does and doesn't work.
Fail big.
Fail hard.
Fail fast.
Learn the lesson, and apply it moving forward.
- DO THE THING.
Dreaming and planning and thinking are great. However, NOTHING will move you forward without action.
So often I hear from people, "How do I do X?" My response most of the time is "Do it." Seriously. Be like Nike and "just do it."
Most of the time we just need to take a little action, and you have to take action to build momentum.
What's the thing you want to do? Do it. Actually, do it.
Do it right now.
Or at least take the first little step. Procrastination is the best abuse of time.
You might not see the entire result at ones but just believe that you're heading in the right direction.
Amazing
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